We’re all impacted…
Do you think you are impacted by gaming addiction or overuse of technology? Maybe or maybe not, but we’re all probably aware of what a time-sink going online can be. It feels like 10 minutes but when we look at the clock two hours have flown by! Two hours we’ll never get back again! It’s so absorbing. We can forget to do what we intended to do. And afterwards we may not feel very motivated to do much else.
And don’t kids always seem to be so much more argumentative after they’ve been gaming? Childhood activities have transformed so much over the past twenty years. It can be quite hard to navigate as a parent what all this means to our children’s wellbeing and how to set appropriate boundaries.
…and it’s here to stay
These are just a couple of examples that show how technology can present daily challenges in how we manage it. We need to be able to deal with it, because digital technology is here to stay. Gaming, smartphones, and social media are part of everyday life and offer incredible benefits. But they also pose risks to people when used excessively.
For many, gaming addiction and over-reliance on digital devices can disrupt their well-being, relationships, and daily functioning. In 2016, an Ofcom* UK survey reported well over half of those questioned admitting they were hooked on the Internet. If you or a loved one are struggling with these issues, understanding the potential harms and knowing where to seek help is essential.
*Source: Britons addicted to the internet, Ofcom warns (The Telegraph)
What is Gaming Addiction?
Gaming addiction, also known as Internet Gaming Disorder (IGD), involves the compulsive use of video games to the point where it interferes with a person’s daily life. This may include prioritizing gaming over personal relationships, education, work, and physical health. Gaming offers an immersive world where it’s easy to escape stress, boredom, or emotional pain. However, when it becomes an addiction, it can lead to:
- Increased isolation and withdrawal from loved ones.
- Decline in physical health due to long hours spent gaming.
- Neglect of responsibilities, such as school, work, or household duties.
- Mood swings, anxiety, and depression.
The Role of Smartphones and Social Media
Excessive use of smartphones and social media can exacerbate similar problems. Constant notifications, endless scrolling, and the pressure to stay connected can cause:
- Sleep disturbances from late-night screen time.
- Increased anxiety due to comparison with others on social media.
- Lowered attention span and productivity due to frequent distractions.
- Strain on relationships as family connections take a back seat to online interactions.
Effects on Loved Ones
When someone close to you struggles with gaming addiction or overuse of digital technology, it can be painful to watch. You may feel:
- Neglected or ignored as they become absorbed in their devices, and also become less empathic towards you.
- Frustrated by failed attempts to encourage them to cut back
- Helpless or unsure of how to address the issue without causing conflict as they say you’re the one with a problem.
- Emotionally drained by the confusion, tension, isolation and despair it creates in the household.
Gaming addiction and excessive phone or social media use can lead to significant challenges in relationships. This can look like emotional distance between partners, parents, and children. Loved ones often feel that their needs are no longer a priority, which can damage trust and closeness.
What you can do
If you’re concerned about the effects of overusing technology, there are steps you can take to regain control and create a healthier balance.
Setting limits on screen time is a crucial first step. Use built-in tools on your phone or apps to track how much time you’re spending on gaming, social media, or other digital activities. Establish time boundaries for when and how long you use these platforms.
Designate screen-free times during your day, such as before bed or during meals. This allows you to be more mindful of your digital habits and gives your brain the rest it needs. You’ll sleep better too!
Engage in alternative activities that promote mental well-being and connection. Spend time outdoors, reconnect with hobbies, or take up a new interest that doesn’t involve screens. Building face-to-face relationships and engaging in physical exercise can reduce the desire to turn to technology for entertainment or comfort.
Digital detoxes; take breaks from technology entirely to recharge emotionally and mentally.
For loved ones; learn how to communicate your concerns and needs in a loving way. Learn how to set boundaries to minimise harm to yourself and your family. Start to take care of your own needs when your partner is not very often present in the relationship anymore.
How I Can Help
I’m a counsellor in Bradford on Avon and also work online with clients throughout the whole UK. I work with individuals who are affected by excessive technology themselves, or by a loved-one. In therapy, we can:
- Explore the underlying reasons driving the addiction or compulsive behaviour.
- If it’s appropriate, develop strategies for healthy screen time limits and alternative activities.
- Improve communication with your loved ones to rebuild trust and connection.
- Address any underlying issues linked to gaming or digital overuse, such as anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem.
- Put healthy boundaries in place that minimise how you are affected by your loved-one’s excessive technology use problem.
- Practice self care to find calm in a situation which may not be in our full control.
I provide a non-judgmental space where you can feel heard and supported in making meaningful changes. Whether you’re struggling with these issues yourself or are concerned about a loved one, working together can help restore your balance and well-being.
If you or someone you love is struggling with gaming addiction or technology overuse, I’m here to help. Feel free to reach out to me through my contact page. Or book an introductory session to find out more about working with me to address the effects of excessive digital technology use on your well-being and relationships. I offer counselling in Bradford on Avon and online.
Get in touch and let’s take the first step towards positive change.
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